As you were

It's amazing to me that sooo many people don't truly know themselves. They seek out certain qualities in others that they lack or don't understand. Someone who holds grudges seeks out someone who is forgiving. Someone who is a cheater seeks out someone who is faithful. Generally, there's nothing wrong with this! The problem presents itself when people choose to accept the bad qualities without question. I know several divorced "twenty-something" women. My initial response was of course "those no good men!" After further thought, I realized I knew several happily married "twenty something" women. What do I believe is the difference between 1 group & the other? Simply put it's knowing your self worth, accepting nothing less & not letting ANYONE tell you that you're worth less (worthless)! I understand now where I went wrong! Not saying that the things that went wrong in my marriage were totally my fault, but I do assume responsibility for not demanding the respect I deserve & choosing to be content in my comfort zone instead of challenging those questionable behaviors! Everything comes down to choice, responsibility, & consequences! Choose wisely, assume responsibility, and accept the consequences for those decisions (good or bad). We have to embrace the lessons that are presented out of every situation. And remember no trial in life is meant to leave you "as you were!"